Learning to have fun with your kids

Going out alone with two kids is not an easy task. My daughter was born in September, so bringing a newborn and a toddler out in the middle of winter was not an option. This means that we have spent a lot of time inside the house over the past 6 months. I was super excited for the weather to finally warm up because I had aspirations of doing all sorts of things with the kids. My son is two and my daughter is nine months old, so I knew going out would be trying, but thought it would be fine. Boy was I wrong.

One issue I’m running into is scheduling around naps. The baby is taking two naps a day and the toddler is taking one nap a day, so they are on exact opposite schedules! Someone is missing a nap regardless of what time we leave the house, which means that at least one child is going to be crabby. No one likes a crabby child!

Let me clarify that we often get out of the house at least once a day. Between running errands or going on walks around our neighborhood, we are definitely not stuck in the house all day. But I don’t want to just leave the house, I want to do something fun! I want to see my kids running and laughing, and I want to play with them! So I finally decided to make a list of all the fun stuff we could do during the week!

I was trying to think of all the fun things we could do, but I couldn’t come up with any activities that would be fun for both them and me. Taking two kids to the beach by yourself – not fun. Going to the park with a baby and a toddler – not fun. Going to the pool and trying to keep a two year old and nine month old from drowning – not fun. So I begrudgingly accepted the fact that I wasn’t going to do anything fun all summer. I was just a stay at home mom and we were just going to stay at home all day and night.

Yes, I am throwing a pity party for myself.

This morning I woke up feeling a little better. We woke up and I made the kids and myself breakfast and then we went outside to play. Sissy was sitting on the blanket playing with her toys for the most part and as usual brother was all over our backyard which is about an acre. Brother was pushing his toy car around and then wanted sissy to get in with him and wanted me to push them around the yard, which I did. As I was pushing, I was watching the two of them have so much fun together. Sissy would laugh every time we went over a bump and brother was trying to get his sissy to steer the car. They were hilarious! The next thing that happened was even better – Brother wanted to push sissy all by himself! Besides the couple of times he pushed too hard and her face went into the steering wheel, it went pretty well!

Then I realized, we were having fun!

All of us were having fun! The kids were having fun, and I was laughing and smiling so big as I watched them and pushed them around. I started remembering the fun we have at home all the time! I don’t know why I was convinced that we needed to go on a huge excursion every day to have fun. While I definitely want to do bigger things with the kids, maybe I’ll save those for the weekend when daddy can help.


Learning How to have fun with your kids