You know a book is going to be good when you read the first chapter and already have an “oh my” moment (and you know what I really meant by “oh my”). I just started reading, “Out of the Spin Cycle: Devotions to Lighten your Mother Load” by Jen Hatmaker, and boy is it good. I read the first chapter and it’s already got my mind spinning. It was about how we need to stop putting a gold bow on the lives we present to others and just be real, regardless of what others might think. It made reference to the Pharisees and I thought, “there’s no way I have anything in common with a Pharisee”. Mmmm think again. Here are a couple similarities that Moms and Pharisees often share.
Pharisees believed their way was the best and only way
Most of the time I do believe the way I do things is the best for my family. Other times I have no idea what the “right way” is and just wing it and hope those articles are wrong about the psychological issues I’m causing my child.
But why do we make moms feel bad for going back to work after having a baby? Why do moms feel ashamed to tell others they’re feeding their baby formula? Just because something works for my family doesn’t mean it’s best for other families.
Pharisees were hypocritical
Do you make your child pray before meals and bedtime yet don’t go to the Lord yourself? Do you read the Bible with them but don’t carve space out of the day to take your personal time? Do you tell your kids to always be nice to others?
When my son is old enough to make his own decisions is he going to continue to read his Bible if he doesn’t see that modeled for him by his parents? When he hears me talk bad about other moms is that going to show him to be nice to others?
There was one point the book made that really got to me. It talked about how the Pharisees actually sacrificed a lot. They spent so much time trying to be perfect so they separated themselves from everyone else and consequently sacrificed real, honest relationships. That sounds like a pretty lonely life and unfortunately, it sounds so familiar. I recently transitioned to being a stay at home mom and I love it. But it is hard. When I’m talking to people I want to share concerns about not producing enough breastmilk. I don’t want to act perfectly happy when I just spent the whole night awake with a screaming baby. But why do I feel like o need to cover that up? Why is there an innate want to be perfect when you become a mom? Does it make me less of a mom if I can’t produce enough milk or I can’t get my baby to sleep?
This devotional was a great reminder. A reminder to be real. A reminder to be honest. I’m excited to see what the rest of the book has in store for me!